Did you know that there are some common fears that you and I face, particularly if we are thinking about making some changes in our lives?

Have you have ever been discouraged, fearful, or anxious about making changes in your life, relationships, or business endeavors? I know I have.

Before I go any further, I want to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are ways you can be released from fear! …

Are you managing fear or is it managing you? In How to Overcome the Dragons and Faith Stealers of Fear you will learn to practical things you can do to manage fear and its cousin anxiety in a more effective way. (check out Jon Acuff’s link)

“Here be dragons” (Hic sunt dragones) warned ancient mariners and explorers or dangerous and unexplored territories. Another ancient phrase used by Roman map makers used the phrase “Here be Lions!” (Hic svnt Leones) when denoting unknown regions.

The message was clear if you want to try something new, if you’re going to move into…

Avoid the COVID-19 Grinch

“Once in our world, a stable had something in it that was bigger than our whole world.” -C.S. Lewis

This is undoubtedly going to be a Holiday Season to remember! Sadly, the stress caused by the COVID-19 pandemic is casting its gloomy clouds over the Christmas Season. The combination of pandemic fatigue combined with the holiday season is a highly stressful time for people. Added to that colder weather, and other factors all create a perfect storm, if you will, for things to go from bad to worse.

As I reflect on the meaning of Christmas, I am reminded that…


Planning for chaos and a returning to a new normal.

How are you doing today? If you are like most of us, you are probably growing tired and frustrated with the multiple impacts of COVID-19. Two to three weeks ago, you may have been thinking, “Hey, we’ve got this!” Now you might just be feeling a little bit of despair and sadness. I know I have had to keep an eye on my attitude. But there is some hopeful news, you and I will recover. Our resilience and faith as people will help us pull through these tough times.


Coronavirus, Toilet Paper, and Fear, what a crazy title for a crazy time! In this article, I will reveal one practice that can give you peace in turbulent times. It is a practice that resilient people have used for centuries.

What a week! Whoever thought there would be short-term shortages of toilet paper and hand sanitizer. And could you ever imagined that we would be starting Shut Down 2020!

There are some explanations for these behaviors, as well as some solutions that I will be discussing in this post.

Who in their wildest imagination would ever dream that Coronavirus, Toilet…

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to crash and burn when they are faced with difficult times, and others seem to thrive?

Why is it that when adversity presents itself, some people feel forced to defend themselves against hard times, and others will take the same challenge and modify it into an opportunity and pull together their personal abilities to meet it head-on?

Our personal resilience to stress, though times, change and other adverse events depends on our inner resources. …

There has been this intrusive myth that the best leaders are the ones who make the best decisions. However, according to a recent study published in the Harvard Business Review, one of the four things that set successful leaders apart is the ability to make decisions with speed and conviction.

In my article, Resilient Leadership Part 1, I reviewed the power of Active Optimism, the baseline of Active Optimism is that you can be an agent of change if you choose to do so. One of the keys to be a change agent is to take decisive action.

The following…

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This is an update from an article I wrote after the death’s of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade in 2018.

Unfortunately, the rates of Suicide continue to go up. And quite frankly, the Church has done a poor job in helping stem these tragic deaths.

According to the National Institue of Health’s 2017 report, Suicide is a leading cause of death in the U.S.

  • Suicide was the tenth leading cause of death overall, claiming 47,000.
  • Suicide was the second leading cause of death among individuals between the ages of 10 and 34, and the fourth leading cause of death among…

The weekend of August 3, 2019was filled with horror, death, fear, anxiety, panic, and dread as news spread of the El Paso shootings and the second shock of the shootings in Dayton.

Even as this tragic news was breaking, I was anticipating being called to respond to the tragedy in El Paso. Early Sunday evening, I was asked to head to El Paso early Monday morning as a Grief Counselor for a business that was directly impacted by this tragedy.

In those two days, I talked with 21 people who were directly affected by this event. Some had lost friends…


Married life can be very frustrating at times. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks, and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks, and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak, and the neighbors listen.

Forty-seven years into this adventure called marriage, and we are still active learners. As a long-time participant and observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through specific, predictable stages and phases. By preparing for these, you can learn to resist some of the temptations to take short cuts or bailout of the…

John H. Thurman

Counselor, WorkLife Consultant/Coach, published author, photographer, spouse and grandpa. Retired Army Chaplain www.johnthurman.net.

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